There are only 2 things you can do....

Weight at last weigh in: 133.1kg
Current Weight: 135kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1800ml
Amount added: 190ml
Amount lost since last entry: 0kg, gained 1.9kg
Total Weight Loss to date: 17.4kg

There are only 2 things you can do if you over eat with a balloon....

1) Make yourself throw up to alleviate the pain/discomfort

2) Wait it out

I've never done number 1. Hell, I tried to throw up in order to lose weight once. I didn't much care for it. Plus it seemed a waste of good food and I've always loved food too much to waste it.

Waiting it out SUCKS!

Now I hear you asking 'But why did you over eat? You should have stopped earlier'

Yes, this is true. There are many explanations as to why I didn't. Most times it comes down to eating too quickly. You see there is a delay in the message from our stomach to our brain telling us we are full. We are meant to eat slowly so that our brain has a chance to keep up with the delay and tell us when we are full.

Another factor, for me anyway, is bread-type foods. Bread absorbs liquid, if you've ever made French toast you will know this well. Now if I eat a moderate amount of something with bread in it eg hamburger, pizza, sandwich etc and then have a drink the bread absorbs the liquid, swells and becomes more dense. I can't judge how much the bread is going to swell, nor can I judge how much space for expansion I have in my stomach. It's kind of a hit or miss thing. Sometimes I'm ok, I just feel well satisfied and don't get hungry again for a few hours, if not longer. More often than not though, I end up experiencing a large amount of discomfort for at least an hour or two.

Tonight, however, I can't blame either of the above reasons. Tonight is one of those 'I was bored and felt like eating' nights.

I spent 2 hours this afternoon cooking dinner and dessert. Lasagne and Lemon Meringue Pie. The lasagne was actually on the healthy side, for once. I made the meat sauce with lean lamb mince and added carrot, spinach and fresh herbs. The cheese sauce was made with low fat tasty cheese. I also used a paper towel to mop up the oil from the melted cheese once it came out of the oven!

The lemon meringue pie has heaps of sugar in it and lets face it probably a ton of fat too! But it was yum, a little on the tart side (maybe I needed more sugar in the end!).

So I had my moderately sized piece of lasagne, about the same size as my 9yr old has, and ate that. 20mins passed and we had a piece of the pie each, mine was perhaps 5cm wide at the base (cut from a circular pie).

Quite content with that belly full of food, felt a little discomfort but not too much, I went to drop my son at his Dads. When I came home I watched a few TV shows......and got bored! I remembered how absolutely awesome the lasagne had been and wanted more, whether I could fit it in or not.

So now I am paying for my crime by feeling quite full and sore. I'm trying hard not to move too much and I'm sitting up super straight. If only my 3rd grade teacher could see me now, she was always ragging on me for my poor posture! Sitting up straight like this helps take the pressure off my stomach. I think it stops me from squashing the balloon into my stomach more.

I'll be sitting like this until the discomfort passes. I hope it won't take too long.

I've stolen an idea from B, another blogger that I follow, who also has the balloon implant. She's been posting photo's of herself from her past at the bottom of her posts. I loved that idea, and whilst I don't have many (I've always avoided photo's, no matter my actual weight coz Bertha always said I was fat so why get in a photo!)

So here is another of me, and I hope you don't mind me stealing your idea B?! xoxox

ex bf N and I. 14.5 yrs, 70kg.

If I move on, what will I have left?

Since my post yesterday, I've been thinking. If I somehow managed to move on from all the anger I have about my upbringing and life, what will I have left? If I magically work up tomorrow morning and all that crap was just neatly boxed up and put aside would I even have any emotions left?

I've come to realise that all the shit that happened, happened to make me who I am today.

I have an over active imagination, I'm always writing stories or playing out make-believe scenario's in my head. Sometimes I sit at my desk for a solid 10 minutes living out imaginary scenes/conversations in my mind, I'm not sure if this behaviour entitles me to a bed in the nearest Mental Ward or not, but some days I feel as though it should.

So one day I was sitting, somewhere, - I'm always sitting...it's never 'I was running and this idea came to me' lol. I don't run!....anyhoo. I was sitting and I thought to myself, 'Self, if you could go back in time, to any moment in your past and change one thing, what would it be?'

Going back to when I was 13, and deciding not to move in with my Dad. That's what I thought I'd change. Then I realised, that would mean I'd have been stuck with my Mum for longer and been even MORE miserable and probably never would have met my now ex, Shannon, and not have had my beautiful son. Kaleb is my reason for living, literally. If I didn't have him I know I would have killed myself by now. I'd have had nothing to live for, Bertha would have succeeded long ago at breaking me completely. Lord knows she's almost won before. I have the scars, both mental and physical, to prove it.

Ok, so maybe I do move in with my Dad but maybe I don't listen to him when he calls me fat. Maybe I ignore him and believe I'm hot and skinny. If only that were what I did at the time.
The possibilities are endless, but at the end of the day, the fact is that if I changed just one thing in my past, I wouldn't be where I am today. Things could have been a lot worse. So I try to appreciate that my past has made me who I am today.

I used to go to bed at night and pray with all my might, whilst crying hysterically, that I'd wake up and be skinny. God never answered my prayers, I've since realised this is because God doesn't exist. But that's for another entry, on a different blog.

I have done all manner of things to myself, looking back on which make me realise I really was hanging onto my sanity by a thread. I have written all over my face, in black eyeliner, disparaging words like 'Fat', 'ugly', 'worthless' etc (Re: Realisation).

I have burnt myself, cut myself, attempted to kill myself by suffocation, over dose, (considered) driving off a cliff and once I nearly stepped out in front of a truck. The only thing that stopped me from mangling myself on the front of that truck, was thinking about how the truck driver would feel knowing he was the death of me, even though I wanted to die.

I have scars up both of my forearms, inner and outer, from cutting myself. I have burn scars from matches and lighters, all self inflicted. I have a scar, just under my hairline on my forehead from where I bashed my head, repeatedly, into a glass sliding door until it broke my skin open.

I have hated myself for so long I'm not sure I know how not to hate myself.

Now that's not entirely true, I love myself as a person.

When my son was 16 months old I left QLD and moved back to WA, lured by my Mother's promises of more support and help with Kaleb than I was currently getting from Shannon. So off I went, and stayed just over 2 years. In the end it wasn't all my mother had promised. I was surrounded by my family, yet I'd go weeks, sometimes months, without seeing any of them or even getting a phone call from them. So in the end I was sick and tired of being alone and moved back to QLD, also so Kaleb could have a relationship with his Dad. Which is as important, if not more-so.

The point is, that being in WA did teach me something. It taught me that I only have myself to rely on. It also helped me to get in touch with the real me. For years I wasn't true to myself. I had what I call 'masks' that I put on for the different people in my life, different masks for what I perceived they expected from me. The real me would hide behind these masks, hoping and praying that the people in my life wouldn't see me for who I really was because I just knew they wouldn't accept me. They'd shun me and disown me. I have a very judgemental family. (Re: Realisation again, poem called 'Mask')

So I would pretend to be virtuous and Righteous (in the biblical sense) for my Dad. Manipulative and sneaky for my Mum. Demur, timid and obedient for Shannon and a myriad of other things for other people, but never my true self.

During my 2 years in WA I 'found' myself. The real me. I learned to love who I was and accept myself. I stopped caring if other accepted me or not. I learnt that I am funny, loyal, passionate, creative, caring, kind, bi-curious, open-mined and understanding. I have slight OCD and I'm controlling. I like to have things my own way. I'm impatient and restless. I like to watch weird porn. I have fantasies that aren't socially acceptable. I don't suffer fools well. I will be the best friend you could hope for, as long as it's an equal friendship. If you take advantage of me or piss me off one time too many I will cut you from my life without a backwards glance. I can put up with a lot of shit, but I will not be your door-mat.

I no longer care what people think of me.  I discovered my new life motto which is;

"I am who I am, take me or leave me, don't try to change me coz you won't succeed. I have to live with myself everyday, not you, so I'm going be true to myself. If you can't appreciate me for who and what I am, then you don't deserve me."

Whilst I love myself as a person, and know I am awesome, I hate my body and my general lack of motivation to do anything about my weight. Bertha is constantly telling me I'm lazy and useless. She also loves to make excuses for me not to exercise. They vary from minor body aches and pains to the weather and which socks are clean at the moment. Oh and of course if my iPod is charged or not. There is no exercise without music.

Bertha does have a slightly nice side though. I know her 'nice' comments are aimed to hurt me elsewhere though, like she tells me I deserve to rest and relax because I expend so much energy dealing with Kaleb on a daily basis. But this is in lieu of exercise. I think to myself that I want to (or rather should) go for a walk and Bertha whispers 'but Kaleb was such a handful this morning, it took you 30 minutes just to get him settled enough to get dressed for school. You deserve to sit down for the rest of the day and just veg'. It's hard not to listen to her, especially when I really don't want to exercise. It's not my favourite activity, whereas sitting on my ass at the computer is! More and more I am realising I want a lap-band. So I can sit and bludge and still lose weight. Or rather, do a minimal amount of exercise and still lose weight.

Here's something that terrifies me. I have 54kg left to lose to get to my goal weight. And that's my goal, not the 'ideal' weight for my height. I challenge you to stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself you have 54kg to lose and not break down. This time last year I had 74kg to lose, now I acknowledge 54kg is a lot less scary than 74kg, but it's still daunting as hell.

I have to apologise, this post is jumping all over the place with my random thoughts. I'm in the mood to share today and it doesn't always come out in a smooth chronological order.

My eating habits have gone way off the charts of late. I'm quite disappointed with myself in that regard. For about the first 12 months after my surgery I wasn't at all interested in sweet foods. Whereas before I could consume a massive bowl of icecream with all the trimmings (mini m&m's, mini marshmallows and a thick coating of Ice Magic) I could no longer stand more than 1 scoop of plain vanilla icecream, and forget about chocolate. Pre-surgery a full 200g block of Cadbury's would reside in my stomach within 20 minutes of breaking the foil. Post-surgery I was content with 1 line of it and I'd put it away. PUT IT AWAY PEOPLE!!! That was seriously unheard of for me. Also Icecream would sit in the freezer for weeks, if not months. Pre-surgery Icecream was replenished weekly, if not bi-weekly.

Instead of sweets I craved spicy foods. Curry's were a fave and everything had to have sweet chilli sauce with it, or at the very least cayenne pepper. I was seriously using cayenne pepper in lieu of regular black pepper and eating jalapeno's by the jar. Nowadays my sweet tooth is back with a passion. I spent $40 at the confectionery warehouse in Brisbane just over a week ago and we literally have none of those lollies left. I bought a 1.3kg bag of Allen's Strawberries & Cream, among other things, and as of this morning, thanks in most part to Kaleb, they are gone. I originally went there to buy 2 things only, for a cooking project, which would have come to a total of $10.

I can't seem to stop myself eating sweets. I really, really crave them. I know it's only head hunger, and I've gotten better at ignoring it, but I am always searching for something sweet to nibble on.

I've also fallen off the wagon with buying low fat foods. Last week when I went grocery shopping I bought regular tasty cheese, instead of low fat, and full cream milk instead of lite. I switched to lite milk over 18 months ago, so I suppose it's not such a huge deal that I bought full cream this one time, but I plan to do it again. That's what scares me. I don't intend on going back to lite milk or lite cheese. I'm sick of crappy tasting food.

In my video blogs I'm always talking about changing my lifestyle, and I have/did. I changed everything I could over to the 'lite' version. I got in to the habit of exercising regularly, even if I hate it. I make better food choices when out. I always remember to ask for a skinny cappuccino/latte when having a coffee with friends. I'm just over it at the moment. I want to have a break. I want to eat normal food like it won't make me fat again. I'm avoiding the scales again too. I'm drinking at least 9L of coke a week, on my own. My skin is itching again as well, like it does when it's stretching and I'm going to get more stretch marks.

I know I need to get back to the low fat foods, and I will. Just not now.

My goal this week is to find and attend a Zumba class. I promised Warren I'd try. I promised myself I'd try. I think I've made Warren my surrogate. I use him to reflect myself. I don't see him as this guy who's pushing me to do things I don't want to, and have no desire to do. I see him as myself, telling me what I need to do to be happier, healthier and skinnier. So when I make a promise to Warren, I'm making a promise to myself and to not follow through on that promise would be to cheat myself. What person would knowingly cheat themselves?

Me, Far right 2000. 18 years, 112kg

The past is the past....yeah right!

It doesn't matter how many times my psychologist tells me that what's happened in the past should stay in the past, it's just not going to happen. Don't get me wrong, she makes a good point, and in a perfect world everything that has happened in the past will have a neat little bridge for me to cross over to the other side, the side of acceptance and moving on. I don't have such a bridge, not with most things. Emma tells me that I shouldn't let past issues effect me now. I have no control over them, they are gone and nothing can be done to change them, only my attitude towards how I feel about them can be changed. That's all I have control over, my own reactions.

That is brilliant advice, really it is. It makes total sense to me. Again, easier said than done. I am mad over so many things that happened to me in my past, most of which weren't of my own doing and I deserved better.

My parent's separating, for one, was not my fault (and really was for the best in the end) but it upended my life as I'd known it and divided my parents. From the moment Dad left, I never heard them speak another civil word to each other, or stand in the same vicinity without there being a glacier between them. Not to mention I became their gofer, the go between for messages, taunts and snide remarks. Great job guys! Put a young adolescent in the middle of your messy divorce and NOT expect her to be screwed up! Really, my parents were geniuses weren't they! *insert sarcasm, in case you missed it*

Now that was bad enough, what was worse was that I couldn't stand my mother. Never have been able to. At 21 I was more mature than she was at 45. She's had a lot of trauma in her own upbringing (if you can believe what she says, which one can't always...habitual liar that she is) but there are ways to get over that. She's never done any work towards it though, as far as I can tell. I, at least, am trying!
So that is why I see Emma, my psychologist, once a month or so.

I've always found my mother to be extremely judgemental and smothering which is stifling to a fiercely independent person such as myself. Growing up, there weren't a lot of 'I love you's' going around either or even talking about your problems. In my family, if you had a problem you NEVER talked about it. You 'got over it' and moved on. In other words you buried it deep down inside, never dealt with anything and just waited for all those feelings to fester, and in my case, burst out at the most inopportune times. Another reason I've done so much work with psychologists, to learn to talk about my problems. I believe this has also helped me become a person who is more accepting of others also.

As soon as I found out my parents were divorcing I said 'I want to live with Dad'. There wasn't even the hint of wanting to stay with my mother. So when the opportunity presented itself, I did just that. I was about 4 months shy of my 13th birthday when I finally escaped my Mother and went to live with my Dad.

For about 6 months it was great. I had him pretty much all to myself. He was a lot more lenient than my mother, allowing me to do things she wouldn't such as dye my hair, shave my legs and even ride my bike to school. Typical things a 13 year old should be doing!

It was also around this time that I started hitting puberty. I got taller, my C cup boobs flourished within 3 months (to my shock and horror!) and my hips widened giving me a more chunky, womanly look. This is when my Dad started telling me I was fat.

He'd take me clothes shopping and buy me the clothes I really wanted, but in a size smaller than I needed them to 'encourage me' to lose weight. He'd limit my food intake at meals, giving me half of what he'd give my sisters or himself and tell me I couldn't have any more than that.

I rebelled by midnight snacking. I'd also steal money from his wallet and go buy snacks at the shops to hide in my room. I'd binge whenever I could, yet despite this I didn't actually put on much weight. My body was still changing, as it needed to, but I put on very little fat. I was a size 14-16 in clothes at age 14. I had wide 'child baring hips' and was tall, 5'11" to be precise. Yet the fat remarks continued. My dad would even take me 'walking' with him and his girlfriend. I have, and probably always will, hate exercising because of these enforced exercise times. His idea of exercise wasn't a leisurely stroll around the park, it was a 4km power-walk along the foreshore. I was forced to do this 3 times a week.

In the end I just decided I was fat. I'd been told enough times so it must have been true right??

By the time I was 16 I weighted 90kg. I'd given up caring by this stage. I never noticed if/when I put on weight because I already thought I was fat. You aren't going to notice something if you already believe it to be so.

Me, far right, age 16

Now call me crazy, and many have, but I despise my father for this. I am screwed up in the head because of his treatment of me. I now have a serious health issue, morbid obesity, because of his actions and emotional torment.

You can sit there all you like and say 'you could have done something about it at any time, you LET yourself get this big'. And you would be right. But the fact of the matter is I didn't notice. I really, honestly didn't. Humans have the ability to lie, we are the only creature on the face of the earth that can do so, and we do it very convincingly, especially when we lie to ourselves!

I avoided scales like the plague. When I was forced to buy larger clothes, bras, underwear etc I TOLD myself that it was the clothing manufactures that were changing the sizes. 'They' always do that, who ever 'They' are (and I've actually since learned that there are no standardised sizing regulations in Australia!).
No-one I knew told me I was getting bigger. Whether they just didn't care or didn't want to hurt my feelings I don't know. I doubt I would have listened to them anyway. I'd have resented them and eaten more to comfort myself.

For me, losing weight isn't only a physical battle. It's an emotional and mental one too. I have to unlearn all that negative behaviour. I have to force myself to get on the scales. I have to force myself to notice my weight loss, and to be honest I still don't. It is a REAL struggle to do so. I have people say to me all the time 'Wow you look like you've lost more weight' and the first thing my brain tells me is 'They're lying'. I still haven't worked out how to make exercise an enjoyable experience. It still has a lot of negative emotion surrounding it for me. I'm working on it though.

The lightest I've been in my adult life is 76kg. I lost 40kg during my pregnancy with my son due to gall stones and was quite sick with them for about 6 months after having him also. Although I lost all that weight I still felt fat. I never noticed I was skinnier. Nor did I have anyone telling me I looked great. Not that it should be necessary, but someone saying something might have helped.

Age 19, 79kg. 2 weeks after my son's birth.

I really believe I have an eating disorder. Something like reverse anorexia. There is all this hype about bulimia and anorexia because they are so noticeable. People starving themselves to death will always get more recognition compared to people eating themselves to death.

I've read up on Anorexia and bulimia, and it is widely known that people suffering these disorders hear a disparaging voice in their heads, telling them they are fat, no matter what they look like. Telling them that if they eat that food they'll get fatter and fatter etc.

My 'voice' started out as a real life one that I could hear every day, in the form of my Father. Eventually, over time, it became internal also. But instead of avoiding foods, I turned to them to comfort me. My internal voice doesn't tell me I'll get fat if I eat that food. It tells me I'm already fat, so why not eat that food and enjoy myself. After all food makes me feel happier, even if it's only temporary.

My 'voice', aka Bertha, convinces me that I'm not putting on weight, but that the clothing companies are shrinking the clothes sizes. She tells me that the little child at Coles said to his mother 'wow Mummy look at that really fat lady' not because I'm overly huge, but because his mother is so tiny and skinny he's just never seen someone larger. She tells me that sure, I'm fat, but I'm not obese. And if I'm already fat, who cares if I become obese. No one is going to like me anyway coz I'm fat. No one is going to be attracted to me, because I'm fat. She tells me I'm not worth anything to the world, because I'm fat.

Ordinarily, you would think, Why listen to her? And I wish it were as easy as that, I wish I could just ignore all those nasty words. The fact is I have my life confirming every single little thing that Bertha whispers in my head.

I haven't been in a relationship in almost 10 years. Bertha tells me this is because I'm fat and fat=ugly.  She tells me no one is openly attracted to a fatty, unless there is something wrong with them or they can't do any better.

I haven't had a job that lasted more than 3 days in almost 10 years. Bertha tells me this is because I'm fat and no one wants to employ a fatty, especially in the fast-food/hospitality industry, which are the easiest jobs to obtain. Who wants to be served their junk food at McDonalds by someone morbidly obese? It doesn't make good business sense, she tells me.

Bertha tells me the only thing I'm good for is raising my son, and even then I'm only just scraping through. She also tells me that those few men that have been interested were only so, because I'm their dirty little secret. It's not socially acceptable for men to be attracted to fatties, Bertha tells me, so they must have a secret fantasy they want to live out. That's all I'm good for, being the dirty secret fantasy that no one should ever know they harbour. That's why they don't want to date me, introduce me to their parent and friends or go out with me in public to the movies or dinner or even to have a coffee. Who would want to have to introduce YOU to anyone? You are an embarrassment, their friends would be asking them, behind your back, 'Why are you with that tub of lard?!'.

Bertha is loud. She is convincing and hurtful. She has evidence to back up her taunts. She is relentless and energy draining. On the days I fight her I feel happy but also exhausted, not only physically but emotionally. On the days I listen to Bertha I feel miserable and just cry. It's difficult to fight when you are crying and feeling down. At the moment I have more 'listening to Bertha' days compared to fighting days. It is evening out though. She has been having her wicked way with me for years, and years. It's going to take a lot more effort and time to stamp down her negative effect on my life and learn to fight her, and eventually ignore her. I hope one day that Bertha will be no more. I hope for the day that I no longer have to fight to ignore her, the day that ignoring her is no longer second nature. The day where she just doesn't exist any more. I don't know when that day will come, or even if it will, but I have hope.

Hope is all I have now.

Tuna Patties

Just thought I'd share this recipe I came across on a 'heathy eating' website somewhere. I can't remember exactly where to be able to give credit, where it's due, but I've also altered the recipe somewhat so can share it without infringing on too much copyright law, at least I think!

Tuna Patties - Makes 4 patties (2 patties per serve)

Double the recipe if making for a family of 4.

Ingredients:

1 x 180g can of tuna in either springwater or oil (not brine). Drain well. If it's in oil drain it REALLY well. (I often place it in a small plastic sieve and use a spoon to squeeze the excess oil out)

2 tablespoons spring onions (shallots) diced

2 tablespoons of flaxseed meal (found at health food shops)

1 tablespoon of mayonaise

1 egg, lightly beaten

1 clove of garlic (cook slightly in a pan with a drop of oil, before adding, if you do not wish it to be overpowering)

2 tablespoons of parmasan cheese

salt and pepper to taste. I also add a small amount of paprika on occasion which is also nice.

Method:

Add all ingredients to bowl with tuna and stir to combine well.

Heat some olive oil in a fry pan over medium low heat.

Spoon mixture into heated oil. Smooth with the spoon to make pattie shapes

Allow to cook well and slowly until it becomes brown around the edges, then flip patties and brown on the other side.

Place onto paper towel to drain once cooked.

Serve with salad or these can even be used on burgers

ENJOY!!! and be sure to leave a comment if you tried them out and let us know if you liked them or not!

Progress

Weight at last weigh in: 133.1kg
Current Weight: 131.5kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1610ml
Amount added: 0ml
Amount lost since last entry: 1.6kg
Total Weight Loss to date: 20.9kg

Just a quick entry to say 'YAY I've almost lost 21kg!!!!'

That and the fact that I've been working on my issue with the mirror. I've been making more of an effort to really look at myself every day. I haven't been doing it clinically, like setting a timer and making myself look for 10 minutes every day (though I did consider that for a small fraction of time!). I've just been trying to remember, every time I go into the bathroom, to look at myself and see myself. There really is a different between looking at something and really seeing it. For instance you can look at a mother holding her squirming child and keep walking, passing it off as something 'normal', but if you look closer and really 'see' you will see that she has tears in her red rimmed eyes and appears to be exhausted and on the verge of a break down.

Sorry, went off topic there for a second...flash backs. No-one ever really 'saw' me, they just looked.

So I'm making more of an effort to see myself in the mirror. I have a little routine I go through. First I look at my hair, I evaluate the amount of dye left in it and give myself a mental note as to how long I think it might be before I need to do it again. Mental calendar gets a note as to what day I plan to do it and I move on my actual face.
I give my eyes a good hard stare. I LOVE the colour of my eyes, and have been told many times that they are my 'best' feature...gee thanks nothing else is worthy of "
best feature in a moving body"? - sorry lame attempt at humour, yet another defence mechanism of mine.

Once I've stared at my eyes long enough I inspect my skin, note the blemishes and dry spots and attend to anything that needs attending to. I then pull back a little and allow my gaze to roam over the topography of my face, not noticing anything in particular, just searing the memory of it into my mind. I'm hoping that this will, somehow, help me become more comfortable with myself. Somewhat desensitise myself to something I've hated for so long.

So far, so good. I no longer cringe when I start this exercise, and I find myself doing it without conscious effort. I don't think I will EVER be a vain person, I've hated my body for too long to ever be in danger of that, but I have hopes that one day I will feel more comfortable in my skin. For now, I will just have to content myself with the fact that my body is shrinking, slowly but surely. And for now, I am content. Those around me might not notice it's happening, hell I don't even notice until I go to put on something that fit me perfectly 6 months ago and now it's falling off me, but it is happening. Eventually it'll be all over and I can sit here and cry, typing to you that I'm at the end of this LONG ass journey. Hopefully I'll be happier, healthier and more comfortable with myself. I'm doing all the work I need to in order to have that outcome, so we will see how successful I am in the end.

Night all and have a wonderful diet-free day!

Realisation

Weight at last weigh in: 133.1kg
Current Weight: 133.1kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1610ml
Amount added: 0ml
Amount lost since last entry: 0kg

I realised something today, well that's not entirely true, I've known this for a while but I've been thinking more about it because of the events of today.

This morning started like any other, I slept in, again, and was in a mad rush to get dressed and out of the house on time. I got dressed, downed an all too hot coffee and propelled myself through my bathroom routine as fast as I humanly could. Brush teeth, straighten hair, put earrings in and finally apply perfume. Now, one would assume that during all this time in front of the bathroom mirror that I would have noticed 2 honking big zits on my schnozz wouldn't you? Well you'd assume incorrectly. It wasn't until 3 hours later, that I was eating my lunch at KFC and wandered into their facilities before leaving, that I finally looked at myself properly in the mirror and noticed the offensive pustules. It made me realise that I mustn't have really looked at myself this morning before leaving the house. Sure, I must have looked at myself in the mirror but only as much as was strictly necessary. To make sure my hair was right and that my teeth were clean but I don't 'see' myself. I don't look hard at myself in the mirror, I try my hardest NOT to notice anything about myself.

That got me thinking, why do I do this?

I believe it is a learned behaviour, after years of hating myself so thoroughly and not wanting to see how disgusting I believed myself to be in the mirror.
I once took a black eyeliner pencil and wrote all over my face, the words that I felt about myself. I wrote fat, ugly, useless, gross and worthless.
I realise now, looking back on that, that I was quite disturbed, even then!

I have always been in a cycle of self-loathing, as long as I can remember, so no wonder I have such an unhealthy and destructive relationship with food. I'm just surprised that food was enough for me, that I didn't turn to drugs or alcohol with any conviction. I did use them, recreationally, as a teenager as we all do. But it never got out of hand. I was lucky in that respect. I don't have an additive personality it seems, nor do I like to feel out of control. So drugs and alcohol never appealed to me in a long term sense. Food addiction is very different though, it's not like you can give up food, cold turkey. You need food to live, on a daily basis! How is one supposed to 'quit' that!?

I have done a lot of work on myself emotionally and mentally over the years, with help from many social workers and psychologist, learning to love myself. And I know I am an awesome person, basically if anyone else can't see that, then I see that as their problem not mine. I am who I am, I am true to myself and if I am going to be friends with someone they should appreciate that, and I will appreciate their individuality also. I don't have friendships that aren't even. There has to be give and take in equal balance. I don't allow myself to be used, I am not a 'doormat' as people say.

But I don't 'see' myself it seems. I think I'm going to need to do some work on that. Going to have to practice looking at myself in the mirror for a certain amount of time per day and get over this aversion. It makes no sense, especially as I lose weight and my face thins, that I not want to see myself any more.
So I will work on this and let you all know how I am going.

I was going through some old files and found some poems I'd written when I was a teenager, about how I've felt about myself. They don't make me cry though, funnily enough. I can remember feeling that way but now I have more distance from those feelings and can see that, in the context of a depressed teenager, they were the one thing that kept me from going truly insane.

Here are a few:

Is This Me

Who is this person,
Is this me?
The sky's so blue,
The world so huge,
All these little people,
Scurrying about,
Like tiny ants,
Does this all have a meaning?
Hardship and pain,
Joy too at times, for me so seldom,
Would people cry at my funeral?
Does anyone care that my mind is not here?
We all stare into the pit of dark unknowing,
What will come out of it?
A resolution,
Or just more torture?
Who are these people a I know?
My Mother, my Father
Brother and sister.
Are they all they all part of my imagination,
Do they really exist?
Do any of us?

Beach of Discontentment

The waves of emotions,
Come crashing onto the shores of my heart,
Eroding the layers away,
Exposing the fragile core,
Allowing the bottled up pain to flow out like acid,
Eating away at all I know,
Hopeless against it,
No way to contain the power that has been unleashed,
Nowhere left to hide,
And forced to over come it,
A task inconceivable to me,
If only I had some help,
Someone who really understood,
But no-one can,
Because no-one is me.
I feel ashamed,
Of everyday thoughts,
Keeping them to myself,
For fear of turning people away,
Is that what I want?
To prove myself right?
That no-one cares?
An excuse to give up?
Expectations are so high,
So why do I try?
Because I need the acceptance of others to survive.

My Life

I see a silhouette of how my life should be,
Hoping and praying,
Someday it will be reality.
My heart is filled with a heavy discord,
Blackened by the pain.
I am a porcelain doll,
Mishandle me and I crack and shatter,
Treat me well and I'll be around for ever.
I am now beyond repair,
Thrown aside, discarded,
Not bothered if I am ever seen again.

Mask


Who is this person,
In the mirror I see before me?
Is this me or a vessel I simply occupy?
Inside of me,
A war is being fought,
To be who I am,
True to myself,
And be ridiculed by the ones I love,
Or be someone I am not,
Who they want me to be,
A true illusion I hide behind,
Fearing to come close
Only to be pushed aside,
Unaccepted,
Until the day the real me,
May stand tall and proud,
But for now,
I must contain myself,
Behind this mask,
As scary as it may be

The silence within

Everywhere I go,
I feel so out of place,
Will I ever fit in,
Or am I just a waste of space?
Will someone please notice me,
I'm here!
Screaming in the shadows,
Silent cries of agony,
I always seem to deny.
It was time for me to take a stand,
To be heard and understood,
That didn't work,
So I die inside,
No feelings,
No emotion,
Not even enough to cry,
You see,
The drugs keep them inside,
Stopping them from flowing through my eyes.
How can I be happy with another,
When I am not happy within myself?
As much as I can feel love,
I don't know how to be loved.
It is inconceivable to me,
Why someone would want to love me.

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Happy Anniversary to me!!! It's been one year exactly since my surgery and I'm almost 20kg lighter! That's gotta be better than a kick in the teeth right?

I know I'd be 20kg heavier by now if I hadn't had this surgery so I'm just grateful for the opportunity to change my life!

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Clinic Appointment 6th Juy + Adjustment #8

Weight at last weigh in: 135.4kg
Current Weight: 133.1
Amount of saline in balloon : 1610ml
Amount added: 100ml
Amount lost since last entry: 2.3kg

OK, so Tuesday the 6th July saw me back at the Obesity Clinic for my last 'monthly' appointment! From now on I will be seeing them every 3 months.

I am 800g off making my 20kg lost goal! 20kg in a year isn't a bad achievement I don't think! It's been slow, consistent and gentle, which I'm told is great for sustained weight loss.

I'll do something I haven't done before, and kind of tell you guys what I went through with each element of my appointments. They are 4-fold. I see;

Warren - Psychologist

Taryn - Dietician

Michelle - Nurse

and

Dr Layani - Surgeon


Warren:
This time I had to fill out a questionnaire. I had to do it at my first consultation, then again at 6 months (I think). They compare my answers and see how my over all mental well-being is going. Whether it's improving or not with my weight loss.
I hop on the scales and tell Warren my weight. He writes it on a print out that's all about me. He asks me questions off this sheet of paper...eg how have my sleeping habits been? Alcohol & Drug usage and exercise habits. We discuss what I should be doing and what I might be able to do to increase my exercise mentality and self-efficacy. He has a real thing about my depression being linked my self-efficacy. Which is always amusing for me, because he says it with a South-African accent.
He's usually pretty happy with me, I made my lifestyle change early on, eg fixed my food issues, so it's just mainly been about getting me out there and exercising more. At the moment I'm without a car so he agreed that I'm doing enough incidental exercise and I don't' need to be adding 'dedicated' exercise as well. He tells me I can do this, that I'm already doing well and that I'm a really pretty girl and so much will open up for me when I get to the end of my journey. I'm flattered of course, it's always nice to be told I'm pretty lol.
We agree that I need to use my pedometer more, which I VOW I will do...as soon as I find it! I mention my portion sizes have increased, and I'm having earlier dinners so Warren suggests I speak to Taryn about what I can do, maybe have a 4th meal.

Taryn:

I walk in, and weigh myself yet again. Her scales are 200g different to Warrens so I tell her to write down Warren's scale measurement :P.
We discuss my increased portions and decide that I need to have a larger lunch, really cram it in there or maybe have a milkshake with banana in it around 3pm. Maybe add some protein powder, but if I ever have to drink that crap again it'll be too soon so I agree to milk and banana...I'll add some vanilla essence too though.
I say I want a 100ml adjustment and Taryn agrees it could help.

I go out and wait to see Dr Layani, but Michelle comes and tells me she needs me to do a wee. lol. I have to have a pregnancy test. Joy... NOT. I go off with my little jar and do what is needed and as soon as I come back into the office and take a seat, Dr Layani calls me in.

Dr Layani:

I go in, he says hi and shakes my hand. Asks how I am doing, how much I've lost and if I need an adjustment. I tell him I'd like 100ml and he says ok. We go through to the 'procedure' room and I assume the position.
The 'Position' is laying on the bed, shirt up to my bra level, skirt pulled down to below my belly button. He feels around for my port then jabs a long needle into it.
I have to admit, that always feels weird. I can feel the port pushing into what ever organs are below it and it feels strange and foreign. He starts to push the fluid in and I can feel my implant getting heavier on my stomach. I can always feel it, I'm very in-tune with my body. Dr L mentioned that out of all the percutaneous placements he did (the procedure has been changed to laproscopically now)that mine is the one he got perfect. Which makes me feel great and terrible, because one of my friends is one he didn't get perfect and her balloon has to come out.
Once the adjustment is done Dr L says goodbye and slips back into his office.

Michelle:
She does my lovely pregnancy test, which comes up negative (it'd want to, I have a contraceptive implant which I had put in 1 month before my surgery). She then does my measurements and takes my temperature.

Then I get to come out and sign my form, so Dr Layani can charge Vibrynt for his time, and I finally get to leave!

I did get given a box full of tubes though to get my 12 month bloods done, so off I toddled over to the Pathology Collection Centre and they took 8 vials of blood!

Geez it's fun being a lab rat...NOT! I'm not funny with needles at all, I can even watch them going in, but having that much blood taken when you've had to fast (for both the adjustment and the blood test) isn't great for wanting to stay upright when you stand. I felt quite woozy after that and went and had some lunch.

I'm always told to stick to fluids for 24 hours after my adjustment, but as I've mentioned before I never do that and I'm just fine. When I try to stick to fluids I end up in heaps of pain. So I have a small amount of food and always feel heaps better.

So, over all it's quite an involved process! One that I only have to go through once every 3 months now! I will continue to update this blog though, when I remember, with my weight loss updates.

My next step is to purchase a set of scales that can actually read my weight and don't cost a fortune. The ones at the department store across the road were like $20 but only went up to 120kg. I'm still 13kg too heavy to weigh myself on them. The higher weight ones are around $50.

Will let you know how I go.

Clinic Appointment 8th June

Weight at last weigh in: 135.6kg
Current Weight: 133.2kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1510ml
Amount added: 0
Amount lost since last entry: 2.4kg

Ok, so I should have posted this a few weeks ago, but to be honest I keep forgetting!

I had my usual monthly appointment, dietician, psychologist and see Dr Layani.

I've lost 2 more kg!!! YAY me

After July's monthly appointment I'll be seeing them every 3 months. Which means I think I need to get some scales to manage this at home.

I don't think I can go 3 months without checking my weight loss!

I will update after next months's appointment.. I promise.

Until then....see ya!

PS after next month's appointments I will be releasing the video blog I've been keeping on my jounrney. They will be available to view via youtube.

Adjustment #7

Weight at last weigh in: 137.7kg
Current Weight: 135.6kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1410ml
Amount added: 100ml
Amount lost since last entry: 2.1kg

I've decided that from now on I'm going to take the weight of my balloon off my total weight. I know that it's going to be with me, hopefully, for the rest of my life but it is currently 1.5kg of water adding to my weight unnecessarily. It's not fat, so why shouldn't I discount it from my total weight?

I had 100 ml added to my balloon last week and have very noticeably more restriction.

After the 50ml I had put in last month I only noticed a change in my restriction for about a week, then I was back to eating the same as I was before that adjustment.

I've been able to really feel the adjustment this time. I could feel it as he was doing it too, it doesn't feel bad at all, just a little added weight and pressure on my stomach. Now I am back to only being able to eat 1 sandwich at lunch rather than the 2 I was having, and 1 piece of toast for breakfast down from the 2 I was having with a cuppa.

Once again, I was told to stick to fluids only for 24 hours but found by the afternoon that fluids just weren't doing it for me. So I had some food and I was fine. No pain whatsoever, I just definitely noticed my restriction right away!

I've been exercising more also. I've been going for walks by myself on the weekend when my 9yr old is at his Dad's, and he and I have also been going for walks in the afternoon, which he hates. I hope he'll get used to our afternoon walks and just accept them as part of our routine now. On our way home (after a good 25mins of solid walking) he likes to play at the park. Which is fair enough. If I make him come, the least I can do is give him a 10 min play on the equipment. I only give him 5-10 mins coz I don't want my heart-rate to go down too much before we start walking home. So most of the time I do a few laps around the equipment whilst he's playing or I do some stretches (which I'm sure makes me look like a tool, but I've been getting cramping in my legs and pain in my hip of late so it needs to be done)

Total weight loss for this month, not including the balloon weight adjustment, is 1.1kg. With taking the balloon's weight off also it's 2.6kg.

Adjustment #6

Weight at last weigh in: 137.7kg
Current Weight: 137.7kg
Amount of saline in balloon : 1410ml
Amount lost since last entry: 0kg

As I said in my previous post, we had clinic appointments at the end of March instead of the beginning of april because of the Easter long weekend.

I went back on Wed to see Dr Layani, my surgeon, for an adjustment.

I only had 50ml put in this time because last month, when I had 100ml put in, I was so uncomfortable for almost a full 5 days and that put me off getting another 100ml this time.

The 50ml really has made a difference though, I felt it the moment I stood up after the adjustment. It's not an uncomfortable feeling, just a feeling of slightly more pressure on your stomach. Like you've just had a spoonful or two too much of your dinner and feel fuller. I've noticed my portion sizes have decreased, not hugely but they have decreased and that's the whole point.

I'm into my 3rd day of this new eating regime and I have to say I've noticed a massive difference. I have more energy during the day, and yesterday I was still full from lunch when dinner time came around. I still made myself have something though, there's nothing worse for your metabolism than skipping meals, but I only had a really small piece of grilled salmon and 4 satay prawns. Normally I'd have a massive piece of fish and 10 satay prawns. Even the small amount I had filled me right up.

I've also been trying to make more of an effort to drink more water, but if I could live on coke or pepsi alone I would. I just love my cola drinks and water is so bland in comparison. Don't worry, my dentist gives me hell about all the cola I consume. I've been trying to drink the water with just a little cordial in it, just to flavour it but still...I hate it. And I really do feel drinking regular cordial defeats the purpose of drinking the water. lol

Well that's my update for this month. My goal for the following month is to do some 'dedicated' exercise, at least once a week. I've got to get back into walking again, and make it part of my weekly routine.

Wish me luck.

April Psychologist and Dietician Appointments

Weight at last weigh in: 138.7
Current Weight: 137.7
Amount of saline in balloon : 1360ml
Amount lost since last entry: 1kg

Ok so we had our clinic appointments for April at the end of March because Easter falls from the 2nd-5th April this year.

I had my psychologist and dietician appointments today (see Dr L tomorrow)
I've lost 1kg since my last adjustment, it's disappointing but I've only got myself to blame for not exercising more lol.

I'm going to have another adjustment tomorrow of 50ml, coz I've noticed my portion sizes going up again slightly.

Rather than being satisfied with the regular portion I give myself, I'm doubling or going back for seconds. It's still 1/2, if not 1/4 of what I could eat pre-surgery though but now that I've seen how little I can survive on anything more than that seems so much to me.

I think I'm also a little paranoid that soon I won't even notice the portion sizes going up and be eating way too much. I know my food issues are fixed. I don't binge any more, I don't make poor food choices nearly as often as I used to. I've made the lifestyle change with regards to the types of food I eat on a regular basis and I can't see myself going back.

I don't deny myself anything, if I want chocolate I have chocolate. I just don't seem to needs a much to satisfy the craving as I used to. 1/2 a Mars bar satisfies my chocolate cravings now where as pre-surgery it'd take 2 or 3 of them.

As far as exercising goes the working theory is that because I don't work, I don't have structure in my life so therefore have difficulty working exercise into my daily routine. Which is true, to some degree.

When my son is at school I just bum around the house, tidying, cleaning and net surfing. There's no real structure to that, I just do what I want when I want.
I do need to set aside an hour of time each day to do something I enjoy rather than just going through the motions. Whether it be exercise (I quite enjoy swimming) or writing my book etc. I need to work it into my day and stick to it. Sooner or later I'll get better at it and want to do it because that's what's expected of me at that time.

We've also made a plan to fix my hunger issues. I get really hungry at dinner and it's not good to have your biggest meal right before bed, even if it is "good" foods!

So from now on I'm going to have a massive breakfast, eg cooked mushrooms and egg on toast, then a medium sized lunch eg a tuna and salad sandwich or 2 and a light dinner eg some salad with dressing and a small piece of chicken breast. That way I'm burning the majority of the calories during the day and it should also increase my metabolism. The more you stimulate your metabolism to burn calories the better it performs.

I'll update how I'm going with eating a bigger breakfast in a week or so. Got to wait until shopping day on Thursday to get supplies!

Gaining Weight and Adjustments

Weight at last weigh in: 138.7
Amount of saline in balloon : 1360ml
Amount lost since last entry: 0kg

I had my clinic appointments on the 1st & 2nd March and found I've put on 4kg in the past month so I had 100ml added to my balloon on the 2nd.

I can definitely feel the adjustment this time! From the moment I got up I could feel the pressure and in an attempt to keep to fluids for the day I had a skinny Chai Latte, only to be in extreme discomfort the moment I finished it, so I didn't go near anything else all afternoon. Well I did have a small amount of water and a little pepsi max, just to see if the pepsi could get me burping and the burping helped with the feeling of indigestion and heartburn. It did a little, but not nearly enough to be total relief. Later that afternoon I decided to take my son to get McDonalds for dinner, seeing as I couldn't eat solids I wasn't going to cook a whole meal, and whilst there I got a major craving for a cheeseburger. Now normally I don't give into my fast food cravings, well not nearly as much as I used to, and this time I really shouldn't have seeing as I was supposed to be on fluids only but I got myself one and steeled myself to eating so slow that a snail would be proud and chewing really thoroughly.
In the end I think I ended up downing the whole thing in the space of 50 seconds and you know what? I felt sooo much better for it. I think somewhere along the way my discomfort from the adjustment had become hunger pain and I couldn't tell the difference. That happened a lot in the beginning, right after my surgery and eating a little of something solid always made me feel ten times better.

I did feel better but my stomach still hurt, like it was over full even though I'd eaten so little. I know that's the whole idea of the balloon implant but surely not to the point of almost starvation. Ok, that was a little dramatic but you get my point. I couldn't even sleep comfortably, being a tummy sleeper, I was putting too much pressure on the implant, which in turn was squashing my stomach more, making the whole ordeal more uncomfortable.

By Thursday morning, the instances of heartburn and reflux were so common that I just had to go buy myself some Mylanta, double strength. The Mylanta worked wonders! Up until that point I was close to calling the clinic and asking them if Dr Layani could take 50 ml out of my balloon as soon as I could drive there but once the mylanta helped I decided to wait and see how things went after a few more days. It usually takes a few days, up to as long as a week, for me to get used to the new restriction, or rather my body to adapt, so I decided to wait and see how I went.

Each night got better, and I was able to sleep as I normally do last night. Today I woke up really hungry and went immediately to make myself a sandwich, which was gratefully received with no immediate discomfort, indigestion or reflux. An hour later, as I write this, I just feel the contentedness of being full. I am burping quite a bit, which is normal for me now, but there's no sign of any reflux. I say burping is normal because it seems there is no room left in my stomach to store those burps any longer so they come up the moment they are formed. Reflux really is feral. I feel for those banded people who have issues with it and PB. PB wouldn't be as bad though I don't think, at least there's no stomach acid to sear your throat with PB.

On another note I've been rather sick for a few months now with what seems to be sinusitis and lung infections. I've had a myriad of tests from bloods to Xrays and even a CT scan. I've yet to get the results of the CT but my xray showed nothing. My blood tests showed that my inflammatory response is way up but my doctor can't explain why. Anti-biotics don't help at all, well not with my lungs. They seem to help clear whatever the head cold things is that I get now and again but I continue to cough even once that's gone. It's not always a chesty cough either, it varies. Some weeks I'll be coughing up crap and the next I'm coughing so hard that I almost throw up and nothing comes out of my lungs. The tiniest whiff of something foreign, eg cigarette smoke, sends me into a coughing fit not to mention what dust does.

I am over being sick all the time, I just hope my doctor works out what is wrong with me soon.

Oh, and I've been using my pedometer, not as much as I probably should though. I've done 2 days with wearing it all day and averaged about 5000 steps per day. Once I get 7 days worth of measurements I'll average it out and start trying to add just a few more steps per day.

New Purchase

I am now the proud owner of a pedometer. They were on special at the supermarket today so I thought I had better get one. Our psychologist, Warren, keeps on at me about just doing an extra 250 steps per day, that makes a huge difference, so I finally got a pedometer to count them and do just that.

I don't know how many steps I take in an average day so first I'm going to measure that, over a week, and average it out. Then I'll try adding 250 extra steps per day, or maybe more and keep a weekly record of it.

I'll even add it to these blog posts, though I don't think anyone at all is reading them. It's more just a record for myself I think. I can't imagine anyone being interested lol and I've not gotten even one comment so I'm assuming I alone am keeping up with my own blog. hehe

Ok that's all for now, laters.

Adjustment #4

Weight at last weigh in: 134.8
Amount of saline in balloon : 1260ml
Amount lost since last entry: 2kg, 3 cm from hips.

I had an adjustment on Thursday the 11th. I had 100ml added to my balloon, via the port.
I now have 1260ml in my balloon and have definitely noticed the difference. I think I'm going to be a little tender for a few days yet, I usually am after an adjustment. I think my stomach just needs to get used to the new level of being squished.

Since the adjustment all I've had to eat is:

Lunch Thursday: Grilled Salmon and Salad
Dinner Thursday: 100g serve Pan Fried Barramundi
Breakfast Friday : 2 weetbix and skim milk
Lunch Friday: Medium Boost Juice smoothie
Dinner Friday: 1 hot dog in roll with mustard and sauce
Supper Friday: Small sliver of brownie with 1 scoop of low fat ice-cream
Breakfast Saturday: 1 Medium sized Blueberry pancake with maple syrup

I'm right into fish at the moment, can't seem to get enough! Especially salmon and barramundi! They're my new comfort foods. Rather than a big bowl of ice-cream give me a nice, baked piece of fish! I'm really not all that into sweets any more, but my brain doesn't seem to have gotten the message. I keep buying things like 1kg bags of M&M's that usually would have been opened the moment I got home, but I've had it sitting there for 3 days now and it's still not been opened.

For dessert now I'm more likely to have a bowl of rockmelon with some ice-cream or vanilla yoghurt than anything else. Or a huge bowl of fruit salad with yoghurt.
Dessert used to be a MASSIVE bowl of ice-cream with mini M&M's, mini marshmallows, sprinkles and drowned in ice magic. Even the thought of eating those things now makes me feel queasy.

It helps a lot that my taste for sweets has diminished, almost to non-existence, since my surgery. I think if I still had the same sweet tooth as I used to this whole process would be a hell of a lot harder!

I plan to go for a walk this afternoon, might have to drag my friend out to come with me seeing as I'll be in the city staying with her. But I need to do it. It's been months since I got out and went for a walk, for dedicated exercise purposes.

I am really starting to believe that I'll make it to my goal weight now. At the beginning I always thought 'well I'm trying, even if I don't get there I've at least tried my best' and now I can actually see it happening. My clothes are huge on me, the ones that were tight now fit nicely and I fell more comfortable in my own skin.
I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, I can see I can and WILL make it!

xxx Cass

Oh and I also lost a further 2kg. So total for this month is 3kg weight loss.

February's Clinic Appointment

Ok so despite not doing much at all I've still managed to lose 1.1kg. I'm happy with that, especially because I've not been doing much at all. I'm going to look at how much a casual gym membership is down the road here and go swimming a few days a week.

Will update again next month.

Xmas, Holiday's and lack of exercise!

Weight at last weigh in: 137.7
Amount of saline in balloon : 1160ml
Amount lost since last entry: 0kg, 4cm from waist, 2 cm from hips, 500g muscle.

So it's finally past the Christmas holiday period, my son is back at school after 6 whole weeks at home (well one of which he spent with his Dad but still...) and I should really be getting back into exercising but I can't seem to find the motivation at the moment. I know that exercising will act as a kind of mood lightener and I could sure use that about now but I just really can't be bothered. It's still too hot during the day, I can't go early morning because I'm a single parent and there's no-one here to watch my 9 year old while I'm gone. I also can't go late afternoon because my son chucks a mental if we have to leave the house once he's gotten home, the joys of raising a child with Autism! I can't afford a gym membership or any kind of work out equipment, not that I have room for a treadmill or exercise bike in my 2 bedroom, first floor shaped-like-a-box unit.

I took my son on a holiday down south during the school break, we went and stayed with a friend of mine in Grafton and took a day trip out to Tamworth. Well we left on the Thursday and came back on the Friday. Wasn't even there a full 24 hours but I got to meet an online friend I've known for 2 and a half years and it was about time too!

I did mean to do a few sessions on my friend Amanda's treadmill whilst we were staying with her but never got around to it. There was always something better to do, which usually saw me sitting on my ass on my laptop or swimming in her pool! I suppose the swimming was a kind of exercise but I wasn't doing laps, it was for leisure not exercise.

My goal, to get to 122kg by the beginning of April, doesn't seem to be within reach but that's my own fault.

I feel I also need an adjustment. I'm now able to eat twice what I was after my last adjustment, which is still at least 1/2 of what I used to be able to eat pre-surgery, but it worries me. I am going to ask for another 100ml put in. They would probably like to put in 150ml but that would make the amount in my balloon all odd number and my OCD is flaring up lately and that would drive me insane!

I have my clinic appointment on Tuesday (the 2nd Feb) so I will do an update when I've been.

The appointment I had on the 5th Jan showed that I hadn't lost any weight but I'd also not gained any so that's something I guess. I'm not going backwards, but not forwards either.

My goal for the next month is to do some form of exercise for exercise sake. I don't enjoy walking so it's not like I could do that for enjoyment and be inadvertently exercising at the same time. Perhaps I could make a promise to try and swim at least once a week (funds permitting) for recreation and exercise.

I will have to wait and see I guess.

That's all for now.